what were you supposed to do?

So often we have what we want to do, then we have what we train to do, and finally we have what we actually do.

It’s great if the first and last match up, regardless of what comes in the middle.

I wanted to do a great many things, but mostly I wanted to be a wife and a mom.  And that’s what I am.  But what was I supposed to do according to my training?  I have degrees in writing and political science.  I worked briefly at a pro-life lobby and education group after I graduated, which fit my training perfectly, as I did writing and research for them (along with any other menial jobs that were around to do).

Then I started having babies and that part of life was done.  At least in the work-for-pay realm of existence.

Lots of people train for one thing and end up doing something entirely unrelated.  Some people long to be something, but feel the need to have a practical degree.  Women who desire to be homemakers often get degrees that they feel will be practical if Mr. Wonderful doesn’t show up.

And for those who do end up with the coveted Mrs. degree, they are sometimes made to feel that their education was a waste, since now all they do is stay home.  I’ve never felt that way.  I think my education has been useful in every way, even if I don’t earn money under the pretense of it.

Mr. TommyD has degrees in computer science and physics, but he really doesn’t use either.  He runs a business, and although it is in the technology industry, he doesn’t work on computers himself.

So, what were you supposed to do?  Does it line up with what you really do?  How do you account for it?  Does it feel like a waste or a kind Providence?

5 thoughts on “what were you supposed to do?

  1. This is timely. Grace and I were just talking about how on earth you can pick something to study in college when most people end up doing something other than their major in life. She knows what she wants to do in life, much less sure what she wants to devote 4 years of study to…and quietly wondering if college is the best way to prepare for the dozen or so things she is interested in, yet still is interested in college.

    By the way – my degree is in social work. I used it for 5 years. Certainly an important part of my life and the lives of the people in the nursing homes where I worked. But, yeah. Why did I study that? That’s so “not” part of now. Much happier to just study whatever I want all the time now. Books, books, books for me.

  2. I have a degree in elementary education, therefore I’m a carpenter.

    I’m like you, I’m glad I got my degree even though I don’t “use” it. There are so many skills we gain in college that we will use regardless if we end up in the field of our study.

    The LORD was gracious in allowing me a season at Bethel, and he’s gracious now as I swing a hammer.

  3. Just wanted to say “hi” – I stumbled on your blog a few weeks ago… I can’t remember how I got here now but maybe it had something to do with tags. We probably have a lot in common, and I think the main reason I read your blog that day was because we just had our second baby and named her Abigail. 🙂 I see you’re part of J. Piper’s church and I’m a fan… we attend a Sovereign Grace Church in Pennsylvania. I love the blogosphere because God can use a quick snippet you read to stay in your head all day. I just checked out your friend’s blog about treasure in the junk drawer and have thought very often since then about the day when all my chores will be done and my kids will be grown and gone. Helps to remember to be thankful when temper tantrums and poopy diapers are flaring. Nice to “meet” you and hope it’s OK if I keep coming back 🙂
    ~ Sara B.

  4. Hi Sara B.,

    Glad to have you here and would love for you to come back! I was also encouraged by the post about chores. This time is fleeting. Hope your little Abigail is doing well!


  5. Hi Abigail,
    My sister told me about your blog, so I was excited to browse! You are a beautiful writer, thanks for sharing your thoughts and heart! I loved reading about the meaning behind your children’s names.

    Nick told me you are on bed rest. We would love to help with a meal.

    My email is: foreverengagements@gmail.com

    (this is Nick’s blog:)

    Praying for you!

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